Making Friends: Qualities We Want in Our Friends
Welcome to another Early Childhood Education Wednesday post. Today we are sharing about Making Friends. Making friends seems to come easy for my children so I really didn’t know how to go about this topic. But then I ran across the book “The Wizard of Oz” by Frank Baum Adapted by Ronne Randall. This was actually a good choice for us because this seems to be how my kids make friends.
So as you know during Dorothy’s journey she meets new people, makes a few friends, and they come across obstacles along the way. We talked about each character and why they would be considered a friend or not a friend. We talked about all the attributes that makes a person a good friend and how we could be a good friend in turn to our friends. Then we talked about frenemies, yes we talked about those, because guess what, even preschoolers run into other kids that pretend to be your friend but then bully you at the same time.
Good Friend Eggs
I put together a simple activity that deals with the attributes that we want and don’t want in our friends. We took some paper and cut 9 small squares. I asked my four year old “What do you think a good friend is?” On three squares I listed her most important qualities in a good friend, I repeated her answers on 3 more squares. Then I asked her “What is a bad friend to you?” Wrote her top three on the last three squares. We then took two plastic Easter eggs and I had her to pick one for the good quality and one for the qualities we don’t want in our friends. We added the three good quality squares to one and three bad quality squares to the other and closed them. I then handed her the egg with all the good friend qualities and asked how she would feel if she had that egg as a friend. She said happy so we drew a happy face on it. Same question for the other and we drew a sad face on it.
We then talked more about “The Wizard of Oz”. We talked about the end where the wizard tricked Dorothy and her friends and how that could make him a bad friend but we listened to his story and find that he’s not really a bad friend. So we talk about those kind of friends also and how we can treat them. She explains that if we treat them like a good friend they will become a good friend. We then open the sad friend egg and take out all the things that make them a bad friend and add the other squares I wrote with the good friend qualities. We took some rubbing alcohol and used it to wipe off the sad face and draw a happy face instead. We then added some rice and I sealed them with tape. Now we have two good friends to play with.
Some of the attributes that my child is looking for in a friend:
- Plays with me
- Helps me
- Lets me help them
- Doesn’t like to hit
- Likes me
Some of the attributes that she does not want in her friends:
- Not nice
- Says mean things to me
- Doesn’t want you to look them
- Does not share
- Takes things
- Doesn’t help
- Do not play well with me
- Do not like me
- Says mean things about me
- Breaks my toys
As you can see her list of what she does not want in a friend is pretty long and these are just the things that she learned this summer that she wants and don’t want in a friend. I’m pretty sure these lists will grow as she gets older.
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