Making Friends: Qualities We Want in Our Friends

Making Friends: What are we looking for in a friend

Welcome to another Early Childhood Education Wednesday  post. Today we are sharing about Making Friends. Making friends seems to come easy for my children so I really didn’t know how to go about this topic. But then I ran across the book “The Wizard of  Oz” by Frank Baum Adapted by Ronne Randall. This was actually a good choice for us because this seems to be how my kids make friends.

So as you know during Dorothy’s  journey  she meets new people, makes a few friends, and they come across obstacles along the way. We talked about each character and why they would be considered a friend or not a friend. We talked about all the attributes  that makes a person a good friend and how we could be a good friend in turn to our friends. Then we talked  about frenemies, yes we talked about those, because guess what, even preschoolers run into other kids that pretend to be your friend but then bully you at the same time.

Making Friends

Good Friend Eggs

I put together a simple activity that deals with the attributes that we want and don’t want in our friends.  We took some paper and cut 9 small squares. I asked my four year old “What do you think a good friend is?” On three squares I listed her most important qualities in a good friend, I repeated her answers on 3 more squares. Then I asked her  “What is a bad friend to you?” Wrote her top three on the last three squares. We then took two plastic Easter eggs and I had her to pick one for the good quality and one for the qualities we don’t want in our friends. We added the three good quality squares to one and three bad quality squares to the other and closed them. I then handed her the egg with all the good friend qualities and asked how she would feel if she had that egg as a friend. She said happy so we drew a happy face on it. Same question for the other and we drew a sad face on it.

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We then talked more about “The Wizard of Oz”. We talked about the end where the wizard tricked Dorothy and her friends and how  that could make him a bad friend but we listened to his story and find that he’s not really a bad friend. So we talk about those kind of friends also and how we can treat them. She explains that if we treat them like a good friend  they will become a good friend. We then open the sad friend egg and take out all the things that make them a bad friend and add the other squares I wrote with the good friend  qualities. We took some rubbing alcohol  and used it to wipe off the sad face and draw a happy face instead. We then added some rice and I sealed them with tape. Now we have two good friends to play with.

Some of the attributes that my child is looking for in a friend:

  • Nice
  • Kind
  • Plays with me
  • Funny
  • Shares
  • Helps me
  • Lets me help them
  • Doesn’t like to hit
  • Likes me


Some of the attributes that she does not want in her friends:

  • Not nice
  • Hits
  • Says mean things to me
  • Doesn’t want you to look them
  • Does not share
  • Takes things
  • Doesn’t help
  • Do not play well with me
  • Do not like me
  • Says mean things about me
  • Breaks my toys

As you can see her list of what she does not want in a friend is pretty long and these are just the things that she learned this summer that she wants and don’t want in a friend. I’m pretty sure these lists will grow as she gets older.

Making Friends: What we look for in a friend

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18 Responses to Making Friends: Qualities We Want in Our Friends

  1. Amanda says:

    Frenemies – I’ve never heard of the term, but oh, so know what you mean. They can be your friends one day and leave your child in tears the next.
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  2. Clarissa H says:

    Making friends seems to come natural to my kids as well, but there are definitely things I can help them learn- like how to respond to those frenemies!
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  3. The the good friend eggs!:) Frenemies come and go through a lifetime. Learning appropriate responses early is a great benefit!
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  4. Devany says:

    The eggs are a great idea!
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  5. Danielle says:

    This is a great, hands-on way to teach kids about being a good friend! You really made a difficult concept much easier to grasp for young kids.

  6. Theresa says:

    The eggs are a really clever way to teach about friendship. I imagine they spark great conversations about what to do when you come across the various qualities in friends and acquaintances.

  7. great friends activity!
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  8. I like the sorting aspect of good egg versus not-so-good egg!
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  9. The egg idea is neat!
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  10. Kim says:

    What a fun idea!
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  11. Betty says:

    This is awesome. Children need to realize that everyone is not your friend. They also need to know exactly what a good friend is. Awesome article.

    • Natasha says:

      Thank you. I feel that we spend so much time teaching them how to be a good friend that we often forget to let them know that everyone is not meant to be your friend and how to deal with that.

  12. What a neat way to teach/reinforce positive behaviors not only in our child, but in their learning to make/choose friends! 🙂
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  13. I am seriously still working on teaching this to my 4th grader. I think it’s a lifetime lesson. Good for you for starting early.
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  14. Lindsey says:

    Hello! Lindsey here from Nitty Gritty Homeschooling and the Laugh and Learn Linkup. Just wanted to tell you that this week you are my featured pick for our linkup. Please check in with us tomorrow to view your feature and link up again!
    I really liked your post because my own daughter is very concerned about the friendships in her life. It shapes so much of who we are, especially with little girls. So thank you for this encouragement and these resources.
    Please stop by again!
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    • Natasha says:

      I’m glad that you enjoyed this post. Yes, our friends do play a big part in helping shape us, and that’s way I try to teach them to choose our friends wisely. Thank you for featuring my post.

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